By: Tory Johnson, CEO, Women For Hire
Most employed job seekers want to protect their current paycheck while seeking a new opportunity. To avoid getting caught by their current employers, which would subject them to possible termination, discretion is key. There's some proper etiquette to follow and a few traps to avoid when looking to jump ship.
Promote your expertise, not your availability. An engineer who's looking for a new boss can promote her expertise without overtly advertising her availability. She can speak at industry events or serve on panels. She can post comments on reputable industry blogs to showcase her knowledge. She can write articles for industry publications or Web sites. All of this can benefit her employer too, so she doesn't have to hide her actions. By being active and raising her profile, which applies to many industries, it's almost certain that she'll be approached with employment inquiries.
Don't leverage clients or vendors at your employer's expense.
Use privacy settings on job boards. This prevents your current employer from finding your resume online. (Many employers -- especially large ones -- specifically look for resumes of their employees to see who's posting in the big resume banks.) New sites, such as JobFox.com, allow employed job seekers to use an alias to protect their identities among top employers searching for new talent.
Don't give your current boss as a reference. Unless you and your boss are close enough that he or she knows you're looking, and has given you permission to use his or her name as a reference, skip it. Former employers are totally acceptable as references, as are vendors and clients who can speak to your work style.
Ask for confidentiality. When applying for a job or going on an interview, be clear about the need for discretion. Don't be shy about saying, "Since my current employer does not know that I'm pursuing a more challenging opportunity, please respect the confidential nature of this application [or this interview]."
Don't bad mouth your current employer. You won't impress the competition by trashing the company that pays you now. The prospective boss will assume that if you do this about one boss, you'll eventually do it about the next one, too
Schedule after-hours interviews. Instead of saying, "Sure, I can come in anytime because my boss will never know if I'm gone," make it known that you have respect for your current job so you can't just slink out at any old time to meet. Good recruiters get this, and they're accustomed to meeting early morning and early evening to accommodate this.
Make time to job search. When you're already holding down a full-time job, your time is limited. If you don't schedule job search time or make it a priority in your routine, your search will drag on for much longer than you'd like. Be deliberate in your efforts.
Don't check out mentally. Once you decide you want a new job, it often makes even the smallest nuisance at work a big deal. Everything bugs you, and you lose interest. That's when you put yourself in jeopardy of getting fired.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
Search for a New Job Without Jeopardizing the One You Have
Bad Credit, Now What?
By: Tory Johnson, CEO, Women For Hire
We all know that our personal credit history affects our ability to secure a home loan or open an account at a department store. But most Americans are unaware that bad credit could cost them a job. Many employers use credit history as a tool in their pre-employment screening as just one measure of judgment and character. If you can't manage your financial obligations, they wonder if it's a sign of irresponsibility. If your monthly debt payment is higher than your salary, some employers worry that it may distract from your performance.
If you have poor credit, it doesn't automatically mean you're unemployable. You should focus on three steps so you don't lose out on positions.
Check your credit report. Even if you're not actively job searching, everyone should know what's in their credit report. Under federal law, you have the right to receive a free copy of your credit report once every 12 months from each of the three nationwide consumer reporting companies. (Visit www.annualcreditreport.com to access those reports.) Don't bury your head; if you have problems with your credit or you find mistakes on the report, address them immediately with creditors and the reporting company. This will come in very handy should you find yourself looking for work.
Ask the employer's policy. Then when it comes to job searching, avoid voluntarily discussing credit history during the interview process. There's no need to knock yourself out of the running prematurely. When you receive an offer that's contingent on a background check, ask directly, "I'm thrilled at the prospect of working here. What is your policy on background checks? I'd like to know what specific screenings you use and the general timeframe for that process." At this point, they've said they want you, so you're in a good position to ask such a question with relative ease. Most employers will gladly walk you through their process.
Speak up with confidence. If an employer says the background screening includes a credit check _ and you've seen the negative activity on your credit report _ then you should consider speaking up. You can say, "I'd like to tell you what in advance you're likely to find on my personal credit report. Please allow me the opportunity to explain it, too." It's important to have a solid rationale. Maybe you hit a challenge because of an unexpected layoff, a divorce, a medical necessity, or a problem with your mortgage. Maybe there are mistakes on your report that you're working to fix.
Talking about personal credit can be embarrassing and difficult for anyone _ you're not alone _ so at this moment it's essential to have a clear, confident explanation that you've rehearsed. You don't want to babble or look like a deer in the headlights. Speaking up at the right moment can make or break the job opportunity.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
Start Talking To Strangers
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women For Hire | |
As you think about ways to grow your career, put yourself in a position to try new things. If you never learn anything new or take your skills to the next level, you're not bettering yourself, let alone increasing your value in the workplace.
I would often attend industry functions because it's the thing to do if you're running a business or looking to grow your career. One day I thought, "I keep going to all of these things, but I'm not really getting anything out of them. What's wrong with this picture?" I wondered if I should stop going, and then realized that probably wasn't the best idea -- there's a reason I was drawn to them in the first place.
As I went through this self-analysis, I discovered that I always brought a friend with me. We would stand in a corner talking about everyone, instead of talking to everyone. I was missing opportunities within any given event because I was afraid to stick my neck out.So I started to go alone and I made a pact with myself: I couldn't leave an event until I introduced myself to at least three people.
I've got to tell you, at the first several events with this self-imposed new policy, those three people were all waiters. While there's nothing wrong with that, I realized I needed to introduce myself to other attendees. It's unnerving at first, but you get used to it quickly.
Today I still talk to the waiters, and I always talk to the participants too. Sometimes nothing comes of it. Other times -- more often than not -- something does: a new resource, a new nugget of information, a new friend, a new client, a new something that I wouldn't have gotten had I not put myself out there.
Many women attend our Women For Hire events because they want to talk to one or five or even 30 specific employers. That's great. But they're missing out on the larger opportunity when they don't also introduce themselves to the other women who are there, too. You never know who you'll meet.
So promise yourself that before you leave any event -- a company picnic, your friend's wedding, a kid's soccer game, a big industry function -- you'll introduce yourself to at least three new people. The bigger the event, the more people you must target.
You're not doing this because you're always looking for someone to help you. You're doing it because it's a savvy habit for anyone who cares about professional growth. Not everyone you meet will have all the answers, or even any answers, but always be willing to put yourself out there.
It should go without saying that you must volunteer to reciprocate. Look for opportunities to extend a hand to others even when there isn't an obvious favor in return. Step out of your comfort zone when giving and receiving, and you'll be glad you did.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. She co-authored Take This Book to Work: How to Ask For (and Get) Money, Fulfillment and Advancement, which was released in paperback in September 2007. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
Questions Every Jobseeker Should Ask
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women For Hire | |
As unemployment rises and a new crop of college grads faces the most challenging job market in years, there's little doubt that the competition for positions is stiff. Anyone looking for work must step up her game in the job search.
3) Am I memorable?: Standing out from the pack in a positive (not hokey) way will improve your chances for being considered. Showing up dressed like a clown or mailing inappropriate gimmicks to catch the attention of an employer will likely backfire. One college student created a magazine about herself that caught the attention of a recruiter who hired her. That tactic would work for a professional at any age -- creativity shouldn't be limited or defined by age. An event planner could put together a packet with photographs of her best functions. A sales professional can bind copies of reference letters from impressive clients who can vouch for his or her expertise and service. Don't wait to be asked for such collateral -- be proactive about producing something that's neat and brings your passion, your personality and your professional skills to life.
4) Am I casting a wide net?: Even though one or two job postings might scream your name, do not rely on too few positions. You need many, many sticks in the fire because you have no way of knowing which will catch. Even if one opportunity looks promising, don't slow down the search until you receive a firm offer. Apply to positions on your own, submit resumes through multiple job boards, and register with placement agencies in your area (big ones and boutique firms). Remember, the agencies don't work for you; they work for the company that's paying them for the best hire. This means you must treat agencies with the same professionalism and respect as you would a direct employer.
5) Am I interview-ready? In the past, you might have gotten away with interviewing with one or two people and shaking hands on an immediate offer. Today, you should expect to go through more interviews with more people than ever before. Treat each one as if it's the most important because even one person in the process can nix your chances by raising doubts about your candidacy. Practice every possible question you think you may be asked, and research the employer and its competition thoroughly. While you might not be grilled on that, it demonstrates an interest in this particular job and field.
6) Am I being flexible?: Offer to freelance or accept contract work if that's what it takes to get your foot in the door. You can also negotiate working from home part of the time as a benefit to both parties. Don't hold out for the most perfect opportunity if it means passing up one that could work well for you right now. Generating an income and closing a gap in your work history can be benefits on their own. Be selective about the kind of work you want, but not unrealistic, given the current economic conditions.
7) Am I actively following up? You may find yourself frustrated from submitting dozens and dozens of resumes online?and getting no response. Don't rely on applying online and waiting for the phone to ring. It won't ring. It is up to you to follow up once you've applied. Cold call to find out who the decision-maker is and then use all of your connections (or make new ones) to figure out how to get your name in front of that decision-maker. Be ready to make a smart, strong, succinct case for why you deserve to be considered for that role. When you interview, don't leave without asking about the next steps: when they expect to make a decision, and when you should hear from someone.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. She co-authored Take This Book to Work: How to Ask For (and Get) Money, Fulfillment and Advancement, which was released in paperback in September 2007. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
What to Ask About Tuition Reimbursement
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women For Hire | |
Tuition reimbursement can be a very valuable benefit if you are planning to go back to school. In addition to salary and benefits, it is something to keep in mind when evaluating a job offer if continuing your education is a priority.
Companies' tuition assistance programs vary widely, in how much they will reimburse, when you will be eligible, and what programs qualify for reimbursement. To understand your tuition reimbursement benefits, make sure you ask the right questions.
- How long must I work with the company before I qualify?
- How do I take advantage of the benefit?
- What kinds of programs will the company reimburse me for?
- What is covered under the policy, such as books or registration fees?
- Do continuing education courses qualify for tuition reimbursement?
- Do I need to get prior approval to take advantage of the program?
- How far in advance do I have to ask for tuition reimbursement?
- How many credits can I be reimbursed for?
- Does tuition reimbursement depend on my grades?
- How much will I be reimbursed?
- When will I be reimbursed?
- Is there a monetary ceiling to my reimbursement dollars?
In addition to tuition reimbursement, many companies offer scholarships for employees or their families. Ask your human resource department what is available and how to apply.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. She co-authored Take This Book to Work: How to Ask For (and Get) Money, Fulfillment and Advancement, which was released in paperback in September 2007. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
Dealing With Difficult Coworkers
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
People can be hard to get along with, and it is likely that your coworkers are no exception. But what can you do if your colleagues are insecure, selfish, depressed, mean-spirited, needy, or exhibit any other difficult personality trait?
Rachel has to be the center of attention at all times. Trevor has feedback or criticism on everyone else's work. Bryan is nice to your face but you know he gossips behind your back.
How to deal? Even though it is an overused cliche, do unto others as you would have done to you. For as many bad behaviors that exist, there are equally as many bad reactions. No matter what someone has said or done, take some time to think before you act. Consider the most respectful, mature, and professional way to handle the situation. People make mistakes, and so do you. It is how you handle them that will set you apart.
Here are some rules of thumb to keep in mind when dealing with difficult co-workers:
Make allowance for coworkers' faults. This certainly does not mean that you have to accept the affects of their behaviors. It simply means that no one will be perfect and that you yourself are not perfect. Let the little things go by and focus on the big issues.
Communicate. Quite often, we don't speak up when someone's behavior is inappropriate, because we are afraid to upset them. Most people would rather dislike a co-worker than be the co-worker who is disliked. Therefore, we remain silent. If you want someone to stop a certain behavior, you must point it out discreetly and privately. Ask them politely to refrain. They may react with surprise and anger, but after the initial shock wears down, their behaviors will cease or lessen and you can continue working side by side.
Speak in a professional tone at all times. Raising your voice will simply aggravate the situation.
Don't expect someone to change overnight. You will surely be disappointed.
Forgive and forget. Don't hold a grudge to all eternity.
Be honest with yourself and others. It doesn't pay to let others continuously get away with murder.
Don't rush to judgment. Make sure there is real impact on the quality of work, not just a personality trait you simply don't like.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
How Giving Back Can Help You Get Ahead
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
Besides giving back to your community, volunteering offers yet another way to connect with potential employers or networking contacts and to build your resume.
When choosing a volunteer organization, remember the following:
- Be up front about your commitment level. Many nonprofit organizations "rely on the kindness of strangers" as Blanche Dubois might say, so they understand that you have other commitments and they are usually willing to take as much time as you can comfortably give. Be clear about the time you have and that you may cut back your commitment when you find a full-time job. This will help the organization give you tasks that can fit into your schedule.
- Share your goals. It's okay to tell a volunteer organization that you are there to help your career and job search. As long as you are genuine in your desire to help, they will more than likely be happy to give you tasks that will advance your skills or allow you to meet more people in your industry. For instance, you can volunteer to work on a fund-raiser attended by executives in your field if you want an inside route to a media company, or you can volunteer at an animal shelter if you aspire to be a vet. Often your industry association can match you with a volunteer organization looking for help.
- Volunteer at a company. There's no rule saying that only nonprofits can accept volunteers. Why not donate a few hours a week to the company you would most like as an employee? If you can spare a few unpaid hours, this could be a great way to get a foot in the door, particularly if you are just starting out in your career or changing careers. This is a great tip for working your way into a small or midsized company.
- Volunteer for your industry's association. This is a good way for recent college grads or career switchers looking to break into a new field. Call the local chapter of the industry's association and offer yourself as a volunteer. Many associations are non-profit and run by people with full-time jobs, so they are thrilled for any assistance, particularly from a motivated job seeker. Volunteer for a position in which you'll meet the most association members--manage the database, work the registration table at an event, or make fund-raising phone calls.
- Volunteer in politics. Republican, Democrat, Independent, or Green, political candidates are always looking for enthusiastic volunteers, especially with the coming elections this year. Working on a political campaign is exciting, interesting, and often exhausting! Campaign staff will often give you as much responsibility as you can handle, so be prepared to work hard, especially as a campaign nears its conclusion. But the long hours put in by many volunteers can have a nice payoff. When candidates are elected, they often hire campaign workers to serve as fully paid members of their staff.
Riding out Recession: Protect and Prepare
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
With headlines and experts forecasting recession, right now is when all of us should be taking stock of our situations, assessing our jobs and developing a career safety net.
Showcase Your Accomplishments
Protect: Ignore the conventional wisdom that times of trouble mean you should be quiet, bury your head, and do your job. Definitely do your job--and do it really, really well--but be visible and vocal about your contributions. Make sure your boss--and even the boss's boss--knows what you're doing and how well you're doing it. If your knowledge and contributions are viewed as essential to the company, there's less of a chance you'll be axed, so it's up to you to communicate that before a decision has been made to eliminate your job.
Prepare: Make sure that as you move through your career you are keeping a brag folder. This folder should include a recent list of achievements and copies of any recognition or kudos you've received. Don't wait for a pink slip to figure out what you'd put on a resume to account for the last several years. Check out these resume templates for guidance in showcasing your skills, abilities and accomplishments.
Pal Around with the Right People
Protect: The cynics call this sucking up. We call it saving your job. In every company there are power brokers and all-stars. Those people can be great allies in times of trouble. They can help protect your job by fighting to keep your position alive during discussions of where cuts should be made. If you're not already in with such folks, get to know them now. Volunteer to help with a key project, participate in meetings, or even stay late or come in early if that's the best way to get some face time.
Prepare: The classic mistake is waiting to call all of those long lost friends and former colleagues only when you need something. Check in with them now. Make a list of 50 people who aren't part of your inner circle. It's not a difficult number if you push yourself. Having this list handy will also put you one step ahead of the game should you find yourself needing to start a job search.
Educate Yourself on Economic Realities
Protect: Instead of waiting for the news to come to you, seek it out on your own. Assess your company's health by reading daily media coverage of your company, its industry and your surround area. Pay attention to the water cooler and cafeteria chatter within your company. Look for cues and clues about your employer's financial stability, such as internal cutbacks that may come in the form of canceling events or other forms of retrenchment.
Prepare: Get a sense of who's hiring and what's hot. Attend free career fairs, participate in free online webinars, and search the online job boards. If you know your skills aren't up to par in today's competitive workplace, invest in education through online courses or continuing education programs in your area.
Consider Making a Move
Protect: During a recession, the first cuts are typically made in what are considered support positions such as administrative, human resources, marketing and public relations, and customer service. If you have the ability to transfer within your company to a profit center--think sales, for example--that's something to consider. If you can solve costly problems or save big bucks in your current role, get busy doing that because you can be just as valuable if you save money as someone who brings it in.
Prepare: Ask yourself, "If I didn't have this job, what would I love to be doing?" Also ask, "If this job went away tomorrow, where could I see myself working?" Put all of those answers on paper. Be comprehensive. It could be a move to a competitor or it could be a whole other industry. You might dream of starting your own business. This exercise is the start of a road map--you have to know where you might go before you can actually get there.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com.
Negotiating a New Title
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
Twenty years ago, the rungs up the corporate ladder were laid out: stay with one company for ten years and you would become a vice president.
Consider why you deserve a better title. This will be the basis for your argument to your employer. Maybe as an assistant you do just as much work-sometimes more-than your coworker who has the title of coordinator. You would like equal billing as a fair and accurate reflection of your responsibilities and contributions. Maybe money is tight in your company and there is no talk of annual raises. You want a more senior title as a sign of appreciation for your work. If there are obvious benefits to the company make them known. Perhaps you have found that clients would rather deal with someone who is more senior.
Whatever the reason, when the time comes, walk into the meeting and confidently explain why you're asking for a new title and why you deserve it.
Have a clear vision. The time you spend with your boss will need to be well thought out in advance. Not only should you prepare talking points as to why you deserve this new title, but you'll want to address how this promotion fits into the organization as a whole.
It's all in the timing. Timing is everything, and a great time to win a new title is at the end of a salary negotiation. Negotiate at a time when your value to the company is high. Adjust your strategy based on what the economy is doing, but act when your own stock is up. And always try to tie your request to the company's bottom line. You should also consider asking for a new title when your workload increases, the company is being restructured, or you have greater visibility with outside clients.
Be political. When suggesting a new title, it's important to consider office politics. Is there a clear reporting structure? Then try creating a title outside of current descriptions. For example if a director reports to a vice president, she shouldn't ask for a VP title. Instead she should ask for "senior director" or "group director." This enables her to achieve a higher position without diminishing the supervisor's role.
Bring a brag folder. Employers are usually more open to requests from those who exceed their job descriptions. Your brag folder should contain information that documents your accomplishments. You should include:
- Recent list of achievements-peak sales, early quotas met or exceeded, and company improvements you were involved in and the resulting savings or efficiency enhancements
- Additional responsibilities-those tasks or projects you either inherited or volunteered for
- Advanced education-training certification or degrees that you acquired during your employment at the company
- Letters of commendation-thank you notes from clients bosses, direct reports or peers that verify your efforts and results.
If your request is rejected, ask what exactly you would need to accomplish to be awarded the title you seek. Leave the meeting with a resolution, some solutions, or a few next steps with a definitive timetable. Your boss may need to see you perform at a higher level before giving you the title. Know what the issues are, and then establish a time frame for revisiting them. If the boss suggests next year, you might counter with the possibility of five months rather than 12. Make it clear that you will be following up in the agreed-upon time frame and addressing any issues that need to be dealt with in the interim. In this way you create a record of the negotiation and will be able to have a targeted meeting in the future.
After the meeting, write up the terms you agreed to-what goals you have achieved within the time frame specified by your boss and e-mail them to her for final confirmation. Any good manager would want to encourage you to meet those goals and then would reward you accordingly.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com.
Sports in the Office: How to Make Sure You Have Your Bases Covered
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
The fact that sports has its own daily section in every major newspaper tells you something about its significance in our society, and it's an ideal icebreaker in many business settings, especially when peers are unaware of any other common ground.
Most businessmen follow some aspect of sports closely, and they're passionate about it. As a woman in business you don't have to follow every score, player, or stat, nor do sports have to be your cup of tea, but you're likely to be perceived as out of the loop if you don't know who won the World Series or the Super Bowl. The benefits extend far beyond being on the same playing field as men. Women today are actively engaged in sports on all levels and have found a tremendous amount of satisfaction from the spectator's side as well as that of the participants, especially in golf, tennis, cycling, and skiing. Becoming interested in sports is exciting and invigorating. Plus, learning about sports allows you the opportunity to understand a variety of games, businesses, and passions. It connects you to people's interests while also helping you to develop new hobbies and interests of your own.
Jump-start your own game plan by developing a baseline level of sports knowledge so that you can talk the talk and get started. If a new colleague says he's from Massachusetts, you can hit it off with him by asking if he's a Red Sox fan. Similarly, if your local team is in the NBA play-offs, there's no excuse not to be able to share in this excitement.
To ace the essentials of asking about a peer's or a colleague's interest in sports without getting bogged down in details, concentrate on a two-fold focus that includes both local teams and national events:
- Get to know your home turf. Make a habit of reading the headlines in the sports pages every day or tuning in to the sports segment of your local television or radio news to learn how your local teams are performing. Be able to name the football, basketball, and hockey teams in your area in case you're asked about them. In addition to know the star players, as a businessperson you'll want to pay particular attention to leadership challenges or changes in team ownership and coaching staffs.
- Pay attention to the big leagues. There is a handful of world and national sporting events that capture the headlines and the interest of our country. Among the most important to follow: the Super Bowl, the World Series, the NBA finals, the U.S. Open, Wimbledon, the Masters, the Stanley Cup, and the Kentucky Derby. Focus on top performers and any controversial calls.
While familiarity with these events requires dedicated effort, the payoff can be enormous in terms of forging meaningful business relationships. Knowledge of sports gives you plenty of ways to grease the conversational wheels, and you'll earn the respect of new colleagues, especially the men, when you ask about their favorite teams. You'll also feel better connected to individuals who are complete sports fanatics. And the sporting world just might gain a brand-new fan when you discover that it can be fun and enjoyable.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com.
Should you get your honey where you get your money?
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
We all know single people (and even many married ones) who spend most of their waking hours at work, and dream of finding true love on the job--rather than dealing with blind dates or online match-making.
Instead of running with your heart, consider thinking with your head before hooking up with co-workers.
Check Company Policy. Before you get in too deep, find out if your company has a policy about workplace relationships. Many corporations have formal, written policies that prohibit them. Sometimes it includes all employees, or it may be limited to senior executives and their subordinates. Other policies extend to relationships clients and vendors.
On the flip side, a growing number of policies are now be reevaluated, especially because many workers are loathe to have their bosses tell them who they can or can't date. In your place of employment, this may be an evolving issue. But no matter what the policy, you should know up front if dating a co-worker will jeopardize your job.
Consider your colleagues. Consider how your colleagues will react. Some may think you're focusing more on your new romance than on your work - whether it's true or not. There's a risk of alienating them, and distancing yourself from the people you work with can't possibly benefit your professional growth and development.
Potential conflict with your significant other. What happens when you two are at odds - for personal or professional reasons? It puts an awkward strain on the workplace dynamics - between the two of you, and among everyone you work with. No relationship is perfect, but even small disagreements or riffs can be magnified when you have to see your love all day long.
But assuming your heart leads the way, you find yourself attracted to the colleague in the next cubicle, and nothing's going to stop your pursuit of that Romeo and Juliet fantasy, consider a few key issues to avoid an unhappy ending.
Keep it to yourself. Be discreet, especially at the beginning. Dating publicly invites endless workplace gossip. Keep it to yourself until you see where the relationship goes. If it fizzles, no one needs to know, and you can avoid the headache of announcing a breakup.
Keep it professional. Don't hold hands and avoid all public displays of affection. Even if your romance is public knowledge, no co-worker wants to see your canoodling and lovey-dovey chit chat.
Keep your email clean. Don't forget that most workplace email is not private. In many companies, it's monitored, so before exchanging hot-and-heavy love notes, be warned that the boss is likely reading what you write.
Tory Johnson is the Workplace Contributor on Good Morning America and the CEO of Women For Hire. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com.
What's Next? Four Steps For Effective Interview Follow-Up
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
Sometimes it's not what you do, but what you don't that can result in a missed opportunity.
1. Establish next steps. You can ask your interviewer when they will be contacting you or you can reverse it and ask if you can contact her in a few days to see where you stand. Either way, make sure you have a course of action set before you leave the interview.
2. Always send a follow-up. Whether it's a handwritten note or carefully worded e-mail you should always send a follow-up to both the person with whom you interviewed and the person who set up the interview. This is your chance to reinforce your interest in the position and the reasons why you are the right one for the job.
What to include:
- Your name, the position for which you interviewed, and the date the interview took place
- A restatement of your interest and your strengths. You can also add anything that you didn't have a chance to mention in the interview or elaborate on something that was discussed. You might want to include a related article that you feel might be of interest to the recipient or one that touches on a topic you covered in your meeting.
- A request to be contacted regardless of whether you are chosen for the position
- A thank you for the reader's time
- Specific action statement. Once again you need to state that you will call and also let those you met with know that you are available to come in for a second interview.
3. Make that call. It's not always easy, but it is essential that you follow through on your follow-up. Make sure you call on the day you established in your interview. If the answer is the dreaded "no decision yet" then you need to find out when you should check in and continue to do so on a weekly basis or whatever time line you deem appropriate.
4. Be patient not passive. While you want to make sure you are staying top of mind with your prospective employer, it is also important to understand that decision makers do not move according to your ideal time frame.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com.
Join a Professional Organization to Advance Your Career
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
You've heard it a thousand times: Join a professional organization to advance your career. And yet, most of us don't follow that advice. Others join but fail to participate. But these affiliations should be more than just a line on your resume!
Industry organizations and professional groups are an untapped goldmine of the job search and career advancement universe. Associations run the gamut from intimate dinner clubs to massive international membership organizations. Every industry has at least one association, and most industries have several, many of which include chapters designed specifically for women. Some associations, particularly in popular fields like accounting and marketing, even have collegiate chapters.
First step, pick a group to join.
Select an organization connected to your profession. Ask your colleagues for recommendations on the most active groups in your area. A simple search on Yahoo! will also turn up organizations in your field.
Join a women's group. Large, multi-industry women's professional and networking organizations include the National Association for Female Executives (NAFE), Business & Professional Women (BPW), and the American Association of University Women (AAUW). Female-focused industry groups include fields ranging from Professional Women in Construction to Women in Film and Television. For a comprehensive directory of women's organizations around the world, contact the Business Women's Network, a Washington, DC-based organization, at bwni.com.
Check out the benefits. Some groups offer access to a membership directory, which may prove valuable to your search. Others host events that enable like-minded professionals to connect in person. The group may produce a publication or newsletter that offers the top trends and thought leaders in your field. Make sure you're aware of the benefits and determine if you can make use of them. If the group you're joining is only very active in Florida, but you live in Arizona, chances are it won't benefit you much.
Ask for references. If the membership fee is more than nominal, don't be shy about calling the membership director to ask for a justification of the benefits. Ask for names of a few members who can also explain how they've benefited from this affiliation.
Be active. Many associations are run by just a small handful of people, many of whom also juggle full time jobs. This means they're thrilled for any assistance, particularly from a motivated professional. Consider volunteering for a task that will help build your experience (writing an article for their newsletter, balancing the books, organizing the catering for an event, designing a new feature of their website), then put this on your resume as experience in your field.
If you can't commit to an ongoing task, volunteer for a position in which you'll meet the most association members--manage the database, work the registration table a big event, or make fund-raising phone calls.
Leverage the role. It's perfectly acceptable--encouraged, in fact--to list volunteer work on your resume. Hiring managers look for meaningful volunteer experience and a true connection to your line of work when making decisions. Don't be shy about touting what you've done with an influential group in your field.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
How to Ask for Recognition at Work
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
An extremely important part of managing your career is getting the recognition you deserve. Yet women tend to downplay our successes for fear of appearing conceited.
For example, a vice president successfully executes a shareholder meeting, and the CEO seeks her out to offer his compliments. He says, "Excellent job. The event came off without a hitch." She should never bashfully say, "Oh, it was nothing," simply because she is too shy and intimidated to accept the credit and praise.
Instead, she must accept the praise with pride. "I appreciate your recognition of my efforts. A lot of work went into planning this event. I'm delighted that all the preparation paid off for everyone." This is precious recognition that she has received from the CEO, and it can lead to raises and promotions if she seizes it and uses it wisely.
While nobody should expect a pat on the back for every little thing they do well, sometimes it's advisable to ask for recognition even when it's not offered. When you achieve a major task at work, go to your boss and say, "I'm very proud of my contribution to the shareholder meeting last week. I was thrilled to play an important role in such a successful event. It would mean a lot to me if you included my contribution in your weekly report to senior management." Your boss should be willing to do this on your behalf, and when it's done, be certain to express your appreciation. You are documenting your contribution and making it known to key decision makers.
- Request this right after the project has been successfully completed.
- Ask for this when you have made a clear-cut contribution.
- Ask for recognition like this at least three to four times a year, or more often if major accomplishments warrant it.
- Always be direct about what you want in the way of recognition.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
Are You A Hard Worker or a Workaholic?
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
Unlike people who simply work very hard, which quite frankly is most of us, workaholics never punch out. They always feel like they are on the clock, 24/7, physically, mentally and emotionally working. A growing number of Americans are finding that they live for work, and some of them are popping up at Workaholics Anonymous meetings nationwide.
If you're a workaholic, you can't stop thinking about work. Work issues distract you from relationships and those thoughts speed through your mind as you lie in bed at night. A part of you is always longing to get back to work. Nothing--not eating, socializing, sleeping--is as satisfying.
Here's a good way to think of it: An ordinary hard worker will be on the job, thinking about shopping with friends. A workaholic will be out shopping with friends, but will be thinking nonstop about work.
Asking the Right Questions
On its Web site, Workaholics Anonymous suggests 20 questions to ask yourself to determine whether you may be a workaholic. Among them:
- Do you take work with you to bed, on weekends and/or on vacation?
- Is work the activity you like to do best and talk about most?
- Have your family or friends given up expecting you on time?
- Do you get impatient with people who have other priorities besides work?
- Have your long hours hurt your family or other relationships?
- Do you think about your work while driving, falling asleep or when others are talking?
Answering yes to one or two might not be the sign of an addiction, but a pattern of yes to three or more of these questions might mean it's time to make changes. Additionally, workaholics often have:
A need to be in control. They can't delegate and are not usually interested in being team players. They are perfectionists and nothing is ever good enough for them. Workaholics would rather handle everything themselves, which doesn't always produce the necessary results because often we need the input and help of others.
A troubled personal life. Typically workaholics don't have many friends or hobbies. Their personal relationships are in disarray. They have difficulty with intimacy because work is always on their minds. And of course, there is a ripple effect in the families of workaholics.
Research done by the University of North Carolina found that couples in a workaholic marriage tended to have twice the divorce rate as those who were in nonworkaholic marriages. We know that all marriages take work, but that's not the type of work that a workaholic wants to focus on.
Further, there is the effect on the children. Research has also found that children of workaholics have a higher rate of depression and anxiety mainly because that workaholic parent has placed severely high expectations on his or her kids, which links back to that desire for perfection.
And there are health concerns for workaholics, caused by the extreme levels of stress they suffer. They often eat poorly, don't exercise, and in short, they take poor care of their physical and emotional well being.
What Can You Do?
As with all addictions, making changes is easier said than done. Here are some ways to get started and some resources that can help you along the way
Make time to relax. Since workaholics are so detail oriented and focused, they should schedule time off to relax and play. Use this time to find new ways to find happiness and approval and satisfaction outside of work. Look for other benchmarks to measure your overall well-being such as achieving fulfilling personal relationships--being a terrific, reliable partner, parent, and/or friend--or even trying a new hobby that offers a complete diversion from work.
Learn to delegate. Recognize that none of us can be successful or productive at work on our own. This is hard for these perfectionists, so they can start small, such as sharing small tasks with co-workers to start whether it's folding shirts in a retail store or managing the office staff. Slowly, the workaholic can see that he or she can begin to let go and still get the job done.
Additional Resources:
"Chained to the Desk: A Guidebook for Workaholics, Their Partners and Children, and the Clinicians Who Treat Them," by therapist Bryan Robinson
Workaholics Anonymous Web site: www.workaholics-anonymous.org
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
You Should Really Take a Vacation (No, Really)
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
Whoever coined the phrase "lazy days of summer" may have never worked in an office.
There are a few tips to keep in mind when planning your getaway from the office.
Identify a back-up. With productivity demands on workers today, it's very realistic to assume that some of your work will have to be addressed while you're away. Identify a colleague who'll serve as your back-up - brief him or her on any key issues and tasks, leave organized files and notes. Offer to reciprocate when that person goes on vacation. This buddy system will lessen the pile-up of work and will lessen any disruption in work flow.
Change greetings. Make sure your voicemail greeting and out-of-office e-mail greeting clearly state that you're on vacation with no access to messages. Offer an alternate colleague's contact information for any time-sensitive issues. And be sure to reiterate that you will not respond until you return. That way you don't have to worry that a client or contact is left uncared for--or thinks that you're just not responding.
Give contact info to one person. Don't tell everyone where you're going or how to reach you! Let one key person know where to get you if something urgent arises that requires your attention. Really get away--which means they don't call you, and you don't call them.
Set limits on work. If you're someone who just has to stay in touch, either because your boss expects it or because you want to, there's nothing wrong with checking email here and there--as long as you're not ruining your family's vacation. But if your phone is constantly ringing and you're clearly preoccupied with work, it's not fair to everyone else. I spent my 10-day Christmas vacation working the whole time because I had a deadline to meet, and I didn't realize how it was affecting my family until we got home and my daughter told someone that mommy worked the whole time. I'll never make that mistake again. It wasn't much fun for me, and clearly it wasn't good for my family either. They put up with my work schedule all year round. The least I can do is give them 10 days of fairly undivided attention while on vacation. We all owe that to ourselves and the people we love.
So decide before you go -- I'll check in once a day or I'll work one hour a day -- and then stick to it. The office will no doubt survive without you and it'll reap the rewards of a well-rested workforce if everyone uses the time they're entitled to.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
Taking a Cue from Office Managers
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
As a rule, office managers don't have the luxury of saying, "That's not my job." Instead, because of the over-arching job descriptions, such workers have to adapt and handle a myriad of tasks and chores as they come up.
More than half of the office managers surveyed said they perform the job functions of at least 10 different office workers in one week including but not limited to: customer service, purchasing, information technology and more. In addition more than half of the office managers surveyed describe themselves as the Chief Operating Officer of their company. More than seventy percent said they act as a psychologist and almost seventy-five percent act as their offices Human Resource manager.
As a rule, office managers don't have the luxury of saying, "That's not my job." Instead, because of the over-arching job descriptions, such workers have to adapt and handle myriad of tasks and chores as they come up.
There aren't too many other positions in which workers would be able to wear so many hats effectively. It takes a particularly talented and capable bunch to figure out how to fulfill all of those roles, often simultaneously.
That's why it's a good practice--whether you are an office manager or in any other position--to keep tabs on all of the work you do and how your days are divided. You--and perhaps your boss--might be surprised to learn just how much you do and how valuable each of those functions is. Try journaling a typical week at work to track how you spend your time. Be honest with yourself about everything you do, including personal time too.
That detailed accounting of your time may be a meaningful document when it comes time to talking about your annual review and salary increase and is also a handy record to consult when you are updating your resume. It may also point to areas of waste where you wonder how office managers are able to wear so many hats, but you're unable to get through a simple to do list each day. If that's the case, befriend an office manager to ask for his or her secrets to time-management success.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
How to Prepare for an Evaluation
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women For Hire | |
You landed your first job, set right to work, and now you are eager for feedback on your performance.
- Bring all documents requested. Also bring any materials you would like to show to support your opinions. Bring a pen and paper to take notes.
- Think about what you would like to discuss. Now is the time to bring up any suggestions you have about changes for the office and changes for your position. What would you like to add to your job responsibilities? Would you like a raise of a promotion? Arm yourself with plenty of examples of your successes to justify your requests.
- Practice what you plan to say. It will help you to communicate all of your ideas. You will be less likely to forget something and will sounds clearer and more professional.
- Know your strengths and how you would like to channel them. Make a career route for how you?d like to grow with the company and tell the manager in the evaluation. You are more likely to get something if you ask for it. Your manager can tell you exactly what you will need to do to get what you want.
- Honestly think about your weaknesses. They will more than likely come up, so it is better to be prepared. If you are not taken by surprise, you can offer a plan as to how you will overcome your deficit. Your manager will be impressed that you had the integrity to admit to your own weaknesses, and then the willingness to improve them. Ask to take a continuing education course, a seminar, or workshop, or simply have a good explanation ready of how you will do things differently in the future. Managers don?t like excuses so don?t challenge their opinions unless you are truly justified.
- Stay in control of your own emotions at all times. No matter what is say to you, try not to cry of overreact to something. Think before you speak and don?t worry about creating pauses in conversation
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. She co-authored Take This Book to Work: How to Ask For (and Get) Money, Fulfillment and Advancement, which was released in paperback in September 2007. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
Eight Ways to Stay Positive During Your Job Search
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
Looking for a job is hard--most of all on your self-esteem. But don't let yourself get depressed: there is light at the end of the tunnel.
But seriously, depression can indeed creep up, and it's crucial to stay positive and focused. Remember Eleanor Roosevelt's famous line: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Here are eight steps you can take to ensure that you keep your spirits and your self-esteem up during your search.
1. Don't panic. Freaking out over your inability to find a job only causes more stress and headache--two things you really don't need. It's important to stay calm and in control of your emotions because a levelheaded jobseeker is more successful than a frantic one.
2. Rise and shine, baby. Don't fall into the trap of sleeping late and lounging around in your PJs. Wake up early and start your day as if you were reporting in for a full-time job--because job hunting is your job now. Waking up on a regular schedule--even if it is an hour or so later than normal--will keep you motivated and feeling like your time is valuable.
3. Don't become a hermit. Socializing, also known as networking, is a critical piece to your success. Tell everyone you meet that you are in a career transition right now and ask if they have a good connection for you. Remember the old cliche: it's who you know, not just what you know. Your friends and acquaintances can be the best source of job leads.
4. Find a partner in crime. The best way to feel like you're not alone in your job search is not to go it alone. Go out of your way to find other motivated women who are in the same boat and commit to doing this together. Impromptu brainstorming sessions with this support person or group can lead to new ideas and new opportunities. Just like having a gym buddy, a job-seeking pal helps keep you going.
5. Do it daily. It's important to schedule job-hunting time into your calendar, especially if you are working full time or part time or you tend to procrastinate. We recommend at least three hours a day--whether it's working on your resume, making networking calls, scanning online job boards, or meeting potential connections.
6. Let's get physical. Pounding the pavement shouldn't be the only exercise you get. This is definitely a great time to start or step up your regimen. Exercise is a great deterrent to depression. From an hour at the gym to an extra walk for the dog, the message is keep moving because an adrenaline boost can do wonders for the psyche.
7. Avoid strangling your parents, husband, partner, or children. Concerned family members--to put it mildly--want to know why their angel isn't having much luck. Parents have spent a pretty penny on your education or they know you're the greatest thing since sliced bread--maybe even both. Perhaps an unfeeling significant other grouses about the piling bills. Their anxiety and pestering can drive you nuts. Instead of screaming at your loved ones, enlist their help. First, have a calm conversation in which you explain how difficult this transition is on you, and while you appreciate their concern, it's also distracting to deal with. Then ask them for contacts and suggestions. You may be surprised at who they and their friends know.
8. Reward yourself. Looking for a job can be a long and arduous process, so it's important to enjoy small achievements along the way. Set goals and assign an affordable reward for getting things done. How about a manicure for every ten resumes sent? Or a night at the movies for each informational interview? And remember, no cheating!
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
Top Tips for Picking an Internship
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
When you're looking for an internship, keep in mind that it's often the early bird that catches the job.
Here are some other things to keep in mind when trying to find the right internship for you.
- Ask other people you know for contacts and referrals who might be searching for interns. Most companies love having interns help them and even if they don?t have an internship program, you just might initiate one and be the first.
- Check with the career counselor at you college to determine what internship programs are available through your university, even if you graduated several years ago. Many colleges have internship programs available to help assist their students and alumni in securing internships. Take advantage of these services.
- Check with someone who has interned at a specific company and see how she liked it. What did she learn? Was she a coffee-getter or did she really learn specific skills?
- Don't be afraid to interview a company if they are offering an internship. Find out what they will expect and all the details possible. Observe the environment you will be working in and see if you can meet the people with whom you will be working. Be enthusiastic as you check them out and make a fabulous first impression.
- Pick an industry that appeals to you--high tech, entertainment, media, medicine, law, nonprofit--and read about it. Don't go in without some idea of what you are getting yourself into, and check out alternatives.
- Set realistic goals--do you want to learn about one industry or dabble in several? Are you using the experience to get a foot in the door at a specific company? Is the job most important or the opportunity to travel or meet people?
- Pick the kind of learning experience that appeals to you--service, where you work under a professional; apprenticeship, where you learn a skilled trade; externship, which allows you to experience a career for a short time as you shadow a professional; co-op, which may last longer and alternate with classroom work; or practicum, another one-time experience.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. She co-authored Take This Book to Work: How to Ask For (and Get) Money, Fulfillment and Advancement, which was released in paperback in September 2007. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
Avoiding Political Discussions at Work
| by Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
How much is too much when discussing your political leanings at the water cooler?
Smart, savvy business people pride themselves on keeping up with current events, politics and even newsmaker gossip so they always have interesting tidbits to contribute to small talk at meetings, parties and social outings. They know that idle chit-chat is awfully valuable in building professional relationships because it allows people to connect on a relaxed, personal level.
But that same small talk can backfire when it's highly opinionated and possibly offensive to others. While there's little harm in sharing your pick for the Super Bowl or World Series, there's surely the potential for sparks when siding with political candidates in the workplace.
During the last presidential election, an associate told a story during a meeting about his young daughter asking, very innocently, about the difference between a Democrat and a Republican. His response: "The difference is that Democrats care about people and Republicans don't."
That not-so-PC reply wouldn't have been a big deal at home, but in the workplace it earned him the cold shoulder of colleagues who strongly disagreed with his assessment of the two parties. A couple months after the incident, he was passed over for promotion. To this day, he believes that his big mouth cost him the opportunity for advancement.
Sometimes there's a comfortable middleground that allows you to react to the latest news without crossing into dangerous territory. Hillary Clinton's show of emotion in New Hampshire resulted in mixed opinions among cubemates nationwide and sparked a healthy debate about whether or not it's ever acceptable for women to cry in the workplace. While defending or attacking Senator Clinton's political views could offend co-workers, a discussion around crying isn't likely to be as heated.
As the mudslinging on the campaign trail grows more intense, in the office it's best to refrain from exposing your politics unless you're crystal clear that voicing your beliefs will not alienate anyone, especially you. Just because you know a colleague is like-minded in business -- or even in music, movies and snacks -- doesn't mean that you share similar political views. Be an outspoken advocate for what matters to you on your own time. But while at work, it's best to be quiet than to offend.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. She co-authored Take This Book to Work: How to Ask For (and Get) Money, Fulfillment and Advancement, which was released in paperback in September 2007. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com
Ace the Second Interview...and the Third
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
At many organizations the next step after a successful interview is more interviews. You should always be prepared to go back to the company for an encore.
Second interviews (and any interviews beyond that) should be treated with as much professionalism as the first meeting. At this point you know they're interested, but you have a few more runs around the bend before reaching that finish line. A huge mistake job seekers make is thinking the second interview is just a formality. You don't have the job yet. Follow these tips to make sure you're in top form 'til the very, very end:
- Dress formally for every interview, even if the company is casual.
- Get business cards from everyone you meet with at every interview, and send personalized thank-you notes or emails to each person, even if you've met with them before. This will really set you apart from the crowd.
- Before each additional interview, review your notes from your first meeting. Make reference to issues you discussed to show your great listening and follow-through skills.
- Review the interview questions you prepared before the first interview. Just because you weren't asked about something in the first meeting doesn't mean it won't come up later on.
- Never show fatigue at the process or criticize an interviewer for asking the same question in multiple meetings. "I already told you that!" is not an acceptable response.
- Keep up the positive energy at every meeting. Don't let your guard down--be as fresh at interview 27 as you were the first time you walked through the door. An enduring positive attitude will really set you apart from other candidates.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com.
You Asked For It: FAQs for Office Gift Giving
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
Every holiday, many employees face a dilemma about gift-giving protocol and how to appropriately give or exchange gifts in the workplace, whether with the boss, coworkers, or clients.
We all want to be the happy holiday elf of the office, not the non-PC party pooper, so it's important to inquire about gift-giving protocol. Know your company's gift-giving procedure before the season approaches. Begin by asking the advice of employees who have worked at the company longer than you. Large companies announce their policies in memos or post their gift policies, while other businesses are more relaxed about it, which presents issues. A seasoned office manager or human-resources contact is usually a big help in these matters. If the employees do exchange gifts, ask how much they usually spend. Is there a specific party or time at which gifts are given? Is there anyone who is off limits for gift-giving? Would it be acceptable for you to arrange a group gift for the boss? Determine what is customary in your workplace and follow the guidelines.
Here are four other questions that might come up when you are making your list this holiday season:
Who should I give to? If your office allows gifts and there are no hard-and-fast rules, that hardly means you must give everyone you work with a gift. Select the people you wish to gift carefully and avoid giving the gifts publicly, which could make others feel left out. Consider giving gifts to those individuals who help you to do your job. Consider initiating a department-wide gift exchange that will take the pressure off personal gift giving. Plan a five-dollar present swap where everyone brings a gift or a gift-card valued at the declared amount and puts it in a big box, and then there is a drawing
What do I get the boss? Avoid one-upsmanship or outshining other employees with pricey gifts. If the boss isn't off-limits, consider teaming up for a group gift for him or her. Suggest that everyone contribute an affordable amount to the boss' favorite charity, the name of which you might get from his or her assistant. Donate the collected amount in the boss' honor.
What should I get my co-worker? First, ask yourself, "What has the individual done that has helped me at work and made my job more pleasant?" In a thank-you note or card, say how much you appreciate this person and her thoughtfulness. If you still want to get a material gift, consider making it something less formal, liked home-baked cookies, a frame to add to her desk collection, or something that reflects her interests. You could also get a gift for her kids or pet instead. Consider what a coworker values and reflect it.
What should I do for clients? Ask your supervisor, "How should I handle our clients during the holiday season? What should I do if someone gives me a gift? How do you prefer I handle this? Are we expected to use our own money to purchase gifts, or does the company make a holiday card available for employees to send out?" You can never go wrong by sending cards with warm holiday wishes. Avoid religious greetings, and focus on wishing the recipient success in the new year.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com.
Why Smart Women Ask for Help
| By Tory Johnson, CEO of Women for Hire | |
Quite often, women don't ask for help at work, but are more than willing to have other people's work dumped on them.
Asking for help is about managing your time and your career. Asking for help need not diminish your strengths or abilities in any way. In fact, there's a lot of grace in asking for assistance, and here's why:
- Perhaps there is a specific expertise that is required on a project, and you do not possess it.
- Maybe there is a deadline that you are in danger of missing unless you get some help.
- You might be juggling several priorities simultaneously, and you need an extra hand.
- You received a new responsibility at work but lack the necessary training.
By failing to ask for help, you may miss a deadline, which will no doubt reflect poorly on you. Don't hesitate to ask for help when you need it. Instead of risking failure, figure out what you need in order to produce a successful outcome, and try to communicate that need early in the process. By asking for more help, you may be eliminating potential problems.
The key is how you ask for that help. Don't approach your boss and say, "I'm so overwhelmed, I can't handle this." Instead say, "There is so much text in this presentation. I want to bring in a copywriter to make sure we deliver a flawless presentation." Keep the focus off yourself and on the benefit to the employer. You are players on the same team, and you are looking for a win. You've studied the issue and know how to ensure a win.
Handling your job this way demonstrates that you understand the critical aspects of the project and are willing to delegate some aspects of it that may be outside your core competency. Don't say, "I'm just not confident in my abilities as a copywriter." Instead, say, "We need a professional writer to really make this shine."
The next time you are working on a project that increases in scope so much that it becomes hard to handle, say, "We really need to pull two additional people into this project because it increased in scope since we received the assignment. I want to ensure we meet the agreed-upon deadline." Don't say, "I'm terrified that I'm going to miss a deadline so I really need more help." It's all in the way that you position the request. It's all in the way you ask.
Try to ask for help as soon as you see a problem. But even if trouble brews up at the eleventh hour, remember to ask for the appropriate assistance. There is minimal risk in asking for help; the real risk is in not asking.
Tory Johnson is the CEO of Women For Hire and the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America. Connect with her at www.womenforhire.com.
Tory Johnson is founder and CEO of Women For Hire, the first and only company devoted to a comprehensive array of recruitment services for women. Johnson is the Workplace Contributor on ABC's Good Morning America, and the co-author of three books on career advancement.